Altruism is an illusion

Don't waste our time trying to please and impress people around us. This isn't an excuse to be an inconsiderate jerk, but we must put a high value on our time. Learn to say no to people who don't show interest and respect us.

Helping other people is great but it is better to focus on serving the greatest good than simply appealing to the whims and fancy of our friends and family. Don't waste our energies trying to fit other expectations. Set our own dreams, standards and ambitious and make it our highest priority.

Altruism is an illusion but it's not selfish to love ourselves, take care of ourselves and make our happiness a top priority.

Let's be honest. Different things run in different families/person. Different strokes for different folks.

We come from different background and we must keep in mind that we learn what we live. (GIGO)

We must realise that our likes and dislikes are not necessary shared by others.

Life is full of fake people but before you decide to judge them make sure you're not one of them.

A man interest in the world is only an overflow from his interest in himself.

Sincerity is an openness of heart that is found in very few people. What we usually see is only an artful of disguise people put on to win the confidence of others and they are really interested in order to get what they want (their ulterior motives).

Sensible people have a low opinion of human nature. They know that human beings are vain, selfish, calculative and ungrateful.

Lots of times humans have to parade in which they are not really interested in order to get where they are going.

If a man is to do something more than humans, he must have more than human power. Do think about it and do think rationally, long, deep and very hard about it

We are survivors and we do anything to survive and we tend to have every circumstances to our benefit and having an extremely high opinion of ourselves and driving need to be center of attention.

We do not know what goes on behind closed doors and what goes on behind closed doors isn't always pretty. "Jangan kuatir. Bisa diatur Dong"

"Pride is for the most part the same in everybody — the only difference is in the method and manner of showing it." - Francois duc de La Rochefoucauld

Every man thinks his own thoughts are the best.

Many people are making all sorts of claims/crap regarding anything but does not serves any purposes.

Everyone has their own agenda. Everyone has their own list of stories.

The world is indeed full of peril and in it there are many dark places.

If we are lucky and brought up in a way that empowers us then we would have a better start in life than others and it will benefit us.

The definition of altruism:-

Unselfish concern for the welfare of others; selflessness.

The principle or practice of unselfish concern for or devotion to the welfare of others ( opposed to egoism ).

Altruism is the selfless helping of others. However, biologists, philosophers, sociologists and psychologists have been telling us for some time that there is no such thing as altruism and imply that it is self-interest and not actually the benevolent helping of others. This page looks at the differing underlying selfish reasons why we help others.

Biologists, philosophers, psychologists and sociologists have all held that "altruism" is never what it seems. That all apparently selfless acts are self-centered is known in the sciences as 'universal egoism', which according to the prominent psychologist Richard Gross, "is the dominant ethos in social science including psychology. [...] Sociobiologists consider that acts of apparent altruism turn out to be acts of selfishness in disguise". There is such agreement amongst psychologists and specialists that it seems "altruism is an impossibility".

If altruism is an illusion, merely a label that covers peoples' confusion over why they behave in a good way, then what are the causes of behaviour that seems selfless?

Biologists, sociologists, philosophers and above all, psychologists, have held to the "universal egoism" theory; that all apparent altruism is really selfishness in disguise. Most arguments for altruism are based on ignorance of the underlying reasons for behaving good towards others or are purely semantic in nature, not logical.

People behave altruistically for a number of selfish reasons. We are programmed genetically to behave in a way conducive to the sociability of the species: This unconscious species-instinct is the closest thing we have to true selfless altruism. In nearly every other conscious sense, altruism is an illusion. We behave well because social good behaviour fires off pleasant neurochemicals in our brains (the pleasure reward), because consciously or unconsciously we want others to see us as a good person (the social reward) or to feel good about ourselves (for pride and self-esteem). Altruism is image and illusion.

Richard Dawkins, the great evolutionary biologist, argues that we should educate people about the true nature of altruism. He is the author of "The Selfish Gene", and says that when we understand our motives better, we are better equipped to behave well, and overcome the ethnically-biased altruism that we are born with.

Bottom line - Conclusion

All the world's a stage